Shopping Basket
Your Basket is Empty
There was an error with PayPalClick here to try again
CelebrateThank you for your business!You should receive an order confirmation from Paypal shortly.Exit Shopping Basket

Wild Sage & Co.

Dreams Grow Here


What Femininity Means to Me

Posted on 19 September, 2017 at 21:00

This article is the result of an inquiry I made into re-finding my feminine. I realized I had lost touch with "her" and was feeling sad and lost and lonely as a result. So this is a completely personal perspective and I invite you into it.

Femininity is the softer side of humanity.

Expressions of strength and power and compassion are different from the feminine than they are from the masculine. I almost can't talk about feminine without talking about masculine, because they truly are yin/yang and can't be separated. As with the yin/yang symbol - one is held within, a part of, the other. It is also true that men can contain and BE / express feminine and that women can contain and BE / express masculine. But for the sake of this discussion, for the sake of ease of writing and language, I will give voice here to feminine as woman.

Each woman's femininity is expressed differently. Some women are in love with being old school homemakers. It satisfies their soul to be the bakers, seamstresses, lunch makers, PTA meeting attenders. They truly see cleaning house as feathering the nest and keeping the sanctuary whole. It may be a boring or tedious part of it, but they see housekeeping as vitally important to the beauty of the home sanctuary and contributing to the peace of the family. (Personally, I didn't get in that line.)

Others feel an equally feminine expression on a tennis court or soccer field. (I didn't get in that line either.) Some are dancers, artists, mothers, doctors, executives.... the list is endless because feminine is a state of Being, a state of mind, of relating to a softer and more intuitive - that's it - a SOFTER, more INTUITIVE, AND CREATIVE aspect of Being.

I've been a single woman since I was 30 yr old. A stray boyfriend here and there, but predominantly single for 33 years. So for "all" of my adult Life, it has been up to me. Every. Single. Thing. Trash, dishes, all laundry, housecleaning, groceries, health care, safety, auto care, earning all of the money, paying all of the bills, pet care, ALL recreation (dining, concerts, movies, vacations). There is no one else. I have not let being single stop me from doing things. I've taken the vacations and gone everywhere by myself. For 33 years I have not allowed the LUXURY of being soft and vulnerable, because I had to be on guard. I had to protect myself, because there was no one else to do it.

However, I once noticed when a boyfriend walked into my house, as soon as I closed the front door and he hugged me..... I physically exhaled against him, every time he came in the house. There is someone else here. I don't have to take on 'masculine' now, because he's HERE. I can let down and be soft now, because "he", protector, is here. It's funny how you don't notice that you've been holding your breath until you exhale.

It's gotten worse - or perhaps more ingrained, more habitual - over the past 10 years. I used to do more creative & intuitive things. I used to do counted cross-stitch. I used to be more involved, more interested, in metaphysical things - crystals, tarot & other cards. I've also had a tiny "altar" space in my home for many many years; crystals, candles, a fountain, poetry, a beautiful pastel drawing of Archangel Michael that was given to me by a Hawaiian Kahuna, tiny Angel cards, tiny Buddhas, people whose names or photos I want held in prayer. It's still there, but I've ignored it for so long that I just noticed it's covered with dust now! (As I said, I didn't get in the housecleaning line.)

I also had a softer, more feminine wardrobe. In thinking about femininity, I'm noticing my clothes. They're not feminine now either. They're shirts and pants; not even "blouses", they're shirts and pants. I think that's a comment on how I feel about my body, too. As much as I LOVE soft, flowy clothes, (think gently aging flower child) I don't like the way they look on my now round body.

I can also say that I'm not spending money on clothes right now, but even so.... the money I WOULD spend wouldn't be for flowy "goddess" clothes. It would be for more of the same shirts that look presentable on this body. Just something that fits. I used to have comfy long dresses that I completely wore out, but I didn't replace them when they became too worn to wear.

WELL! Isn't that a kick in the head!? I am not only not feeling feminine, but I am not tending my own goddess!! Funny how that is a self-feeding spiral, isn't it. No wonder I was feeling sad and lost and lonely. I was ignoring the Center of my Essential Being, and I missed her.

I began by saying femininity is the softer side of humanity - which gave me a nagging question;

does that mean that masculine is the "stronger" side or the "harder" side? After writing this, I have my answer now.

Masculine is the guardian side.

Masculine is the physical strength, the protector, the guardian at the gate, the no trespassing sign

- and provides the fortress.

Feminine is the softer side. 

Feminine is the strength of compassion, intuition, empathy, humanKIND - and offers the soft place to fall.

These descriptions hold up for equally well for a man or a woman, and either gender can embody them. This isn't about genitals. As we began, feminine & masculine are a state of Being and expression. 

One last thing, just in case you think I'm defining "soft"  as "weak".....

I invite you to think how strong a "soft place to fall" must be in order to catch a warrior.

With Aloha Love & Blessings,


Categories: None

Post a Comment


Oops, you forgot something.


The words you entered did not match the given text. Please try again.


Reply CarlVicle
3:43 on 28 November, 2021 
generic viagra uk pharmacy
Reply nike off whtie
1:31 on 28 November, 2021 
I intended to compose you one bit of note to help thank you so much over again just for the breathtaking tricks you've documented in this article. It has been simply tremendously generous of people like you giving unreservedly all that many people could have made available as an ebook to end up making some money on their own, and in particular given that you might well have done it if you desired. Those creative ideas also worked like the great way to know that most people have similar interest similar to my very own to see a lot more related to this issue. I'm sure there are several more enjoyable instances in the future for many who look over your site.
nike off whtie
Reply kobe basketball shoes
1:29 on 28 November, 2021 
I wish to show my gratitude for your generosity supporting all those that should have guidance on this particular theme. Your personal commitment to passing the solution throughout has been extraordinarily powerful and have usually empowered others much like me to reach their dreams. Your personal important suggestions signifies a whole lot a person like me and extremely more to my mates. Thank you; from each one of us.
kobe basketball shoes
Reply kyrie 6
1:29 on 28 November, 2021 
I intended to send you one little bit of word so as to give many thanks the moment again on your precious methods you've shown on this page. It has been quite strangely generous with you giving openly exactly what a number of us would have offered for sale for an ebook to help with making some cash for their own end, even more so given that you could have tried it if you ever decided. Those tactics additionally acted as a easy way to know that other people have a similar interest the same as my very own to grasp a little more concerning this issue. I am sure there are lots of more pleasurable periods in the future for many who see your website.
kyrie 6
Reply kobe byrant shoes
1:10 on 28 November, 2021 
Needed to write you the little note to help thank you so much the moment again just for the pretty guidelines you have contributed in this case. It has been certainly particularly generous with people like you in giving extensively what most of us could possibly have offered for sale for an electronic book to help with making some dough on their own, chiefly since you might have tried it if you ever considered necessary. These points additionally worked like the good way to fully grasp some people have the same fervor similar to mine to grasp a great deal more when it comes to this condition. I am certain there are some more enjoyable periods ahead for folks who go through your blog.
kobe byrant shoes
Reply golden goose outlet
1:10 on 28 November, 2021 
Thanks a lot for giving everyone an extremely breathtaking possiblity to read in detail from here. It is often very great and as well , full of fun for me and my office peers to visit the blog at the very least thrice per week to read through the new guidance you have. Not to mention, I am just always contented with your brilliant principles you give. Some 1 points in this posting are undoubtedly the most efficient we have had.
golden goose outlet
Reply yeezy 350
1:10 on 28 November, 2021 
Thank you a lot for giving everyone a very terrific possiblity to read in detail from this site. It really is very nice and also packed with a great time for me personally and my office mates to search your website particularly 3 times every week to see the new tips you have. And of course, I'm so usually astounded with your surprising creative concepts served by you. Some two points in this posting are in truth the most suitable we have all ever had.
yeezy 350
Reply golden goose
1:08 on 28 November, 2021 
Thanks so much for providing individuals with an extraordinarily marvellous possiblity to check tips from this blog. It is usually very great plus jam-packed with a lot of fun for me and my office friends to visit your web site not less than 3 times in one week to find out the fresh tips you have. And of course, I am actually motivated with the striking concepts you serve. Selected 2 facts in this article are absolutely the very best we have ever had.
golden goose
Reply golden goose outlet
22:45 on 27 November, 2021 
I definitely wanted to make a small note to appreciate you for these remarkable tips and hints you are writing at this site. My particularly long internet investigation has now been honored with good details to go over with my classmates and friends. I would say that most of us readers are undeniably lucky to exist in a good community with many wonderful professionals with useful solutions. I feel rather fortunate to have encountered the webpages and look forward to tons of more entertaining moments reading here. Thanks a lot again for a lot of things.
golden goose outlet
Reply AmyVicle
22:13 on 27 November, 2021 
viagra for women price
Reply czaterianie
20:44 on 27 November, 2021 
miami dolphins trucker hat for sale adidas superstar clear sky blau authentic pat tillman mens throwback jersey arizona cardinals 40 black reebok nfl godmother pandora charm extra high platform chuck taylor all star air jordan 12 french blu tickets
Reply nike lebron 16
20:07 on 27 November, 2021 
I have to show appreciation to you just for rescuing me from such a circumstance. Just after checking throughout the the web and obtaining views that were not pleasant, I believed my entire life was done. Existing without the presence of strategies to the issues you've fixed all through your main post is a crucial case, and the ones which might have negatively damaged my entire career if I hadn't noticed your blog. Your good expertise and kindness in touching every aspect was useful. I am not sure what I would have done if I hadn't come upon such a thing like this. I can also at this time relish my future. Thanks for your time very much for your expert and results-oriented help. I won't think twice to suggest your web sites to anyone who desires support about this issue.
nike lebron 16
Reply cheap jordans
20:07 on 27 November, 2021 
I and my pals were actually checking the nice strategies from the website and so quickly I got an awful suspicion I never thanked the site owner for those tips. Those boys are actually totally warmed to read all of them and have now very much been loving those things. Appreciation for actually being really helpful as well as for going for this kind of essential areas millions of individuals are really needing to understand about. My personal sincere apologies for not saying thanks to you earlier.
cheap jordans
Reply jordan shoes
20:06 on 27 November, 2021 
My husband and i were really joyful when John could finish off his web research out of the precious recommendations he discovered using your web site. It is now and again perplexing to simply be making a gift of hints which most people might have been selling. So we remember we now have the blog owner to be grateful to for this. The main explanations you've made, the straightforward website navigation, the friendships you will help to engender - it's everything superb, and it is making our son in addition to the family know that that topic is pleasurable, which is exceedingly indispensable. Thank you for the whole lot!
jordan shoes
Reply nike off whtie
20:06 on 27 November, 2021 
I must show some appreciation to you for rescuing me from this matter. After browsing throughout the internet and getting views that were not helpful, I was thinking my life was gone. Living devoid of the answers to the difficulties you've sorted out all through your short article is a crucial case, and the ones that could have adversely affected my entire career if I had not come across your blog. Your own natural talent and kindness in controlling everything was crucial. I am not sure what I would have done if I had not come upon such a stuff like this. I'm able to at this moment look ahead to my future. Thanks very much for the impressive and results-oriented help. I won't think twice to propose your site to any person who would like direction about this topic.
nike off whtie
Reply golden goose sale
20:04 on 27 November, 2021 
I want to express appreciation to the writer just for rescuing me from this type of predicament. After looking throughout the the net and coming across ways which were not beneficial, I was thinking my entire life was over. Being alive minus the answers to the issues you have fixed by way of your main article is a serious case, and the kind that might have badly damaged my career if I had not discovered your website. Your own natural talent and kindness in taking care of all the stuff was very helpful. I'm not sure what I would've done if I had not discovered such a subject like this. I can at this time look forward to my future. Thank you so much for this skilled and sensible guide. I will not think twice to propose your web page to any individual who requires recommendations about this matter.
golden goose sale
Reply UgoVicle
18:33 on 27 November, 2021 
where can i get cialis pills
Reply candywires
18:33 on 27 November, 2021 
jordan 1s red white black vapormax size 4 maschio nero scarpe with rosso stitching mlb weekend uniforms for cheap elite wesley johnson youth jersey new york jets 76 road white nfl titleist fitted hats new era life
Reply PaulVicle
18:22 on 27 November, 2021 
how much does ivermectin cost
Reply YonVicle
14:28 on 27 November, 2021 
ivermectin 400 mg